Dinner with Sarah and Julius

Last night I had dinner with Sarah and Julius Were, two of the three founders of Soulfari Kenya. It was so incredibly exciting to talk with them. I wanted to know some specifics about what I should take...I'm going to look for some inexpensive crafting items for the women as they have absolutely nothing to do.

I learned that the Sisters of Charity have as their mission being a safe haven for the women and children that they shelter. This is a great and noble cause. Our goal, however, is to nudge them, ever so gently, in the direction of treatment and education of their wards.

I have learned that Kenyan society is a very "top down" sort of thing. Those who carry out most of the work do just and only what has been directed and/or approved by their superiors. We will need to be very careful to honor their system.

I have learned that we need to dress modestly (I think I usually dress modestly, if sometimes flamboyantly). When I go to the Autism Society of Kenya Julius said I must wear a dress or a skirt and closed toe shoes, definitely not sandals. Sandals and comfortable pants or capris are okay when working with the children. Shorts are never ok, at least for women.

They said not to ask as many questions of Kenyans as we Americans are accustomed to asking. Questions such as "What do you do?" and "Where do you live?" and "How many children do you have?" are considered far too personal. They encouraged me to instead of probing for more information from my conversational partner I should talk in general terms about myself...but not my house, car, or job. It is more permissible to make general comments about the environment (as long as it is complimentary) and then lead into a less direct question. This will all be a challenge for me.

I won't be able to take as many pictures of those that I work with as I would have likes. Photgraphs are considered quite invasive and are generally discouraged. I"m hoping I can take some photos of the markets and that sort of thing but I will just have to see.

Only eleven more days and much to do before I go!!!